A topic of discussion was brought up yesterday within the comments section of my post and it’s something I have long wanted to write about, so I wanted to take some time today to address it and open a dialog about it as it weighs heavily on me and is an important topic to confront not only as a business person but also as a woman.
One of the most disheartening things to come out of my infrequent but passionate posts about human rights issues or topics that could be considered “politically charged” is the call from fellow women to “stay in my lane” and not post about anything political and stick to only sharing “beautiful things”. They tell me they only follow me to provide them with pretty images and advice on how to make their homes attractive and not to hear my opinion on anything outside of that. Perhaps old business advice was to not partake in political discussion, and it may stand true for some more corporate entities, but I feel in this day and age, that advice is dusty and dated. Some of the largest companies in the world have leaders that are sharing opinions and taking a stand on political issues, so I’m not sure why my tiny brand causes women (and it’s 99% of the time women who make these comments) to feel such vitriol that I do the same.
Women have long been told to “look pretty and be quiet” and these kinds of comments and requests not only are a call for censorship but thinly veiled sexism. Yes, I am a business and now a brand name. And yes, what I do day in and day out IS create beautiful homes, products and share images that reflect that. But I am also a person. A mother. A woman. I am a human being who cares deeply and feels intensely. While I make money from the decorative arts and my blog about those interests, my number one job is to be Henry’s mother and fight for what I believe in to create a safer, smarter, better world for him. If taking a stand against something I feel is morally hideous (our obsession with guns and the separation of families at our border, for example)upsets some people so much that they no longer want to follow me, fine. Staying silent and ignoring the issue is just not an option for me, I’d rather lose a few followers and make a few less dollars than not be able to tell my child that I tried to contribute in some small way (using my platform) to help make his world better. I also do not want to raise a son who thinks that women should just shut up and be pretty or be an example to young girls that we are only good for one thing. Quite the opposite.
When I come across a blog post or article I don’t agree with, I simply don’t read it or I read it in an attempt to understand their opinion, but I would never tell them they “couldn’t or shouldn’t” write about something that they feel strongly about. That is everyone’s right as a free American. But that doesn’t necessarily mean I’m NEVER going to read something by them ever again or support their business if they are producing things I like. I know and am friends with people who voted for Trump, I have friends who own and like guns– that doesn’t mean I draw a hard and fast line and say “that’s it, you’re dead to me”. People are such complicated and multi-layered creatures- to reduce someone to their opinion on one topic, or their job, is short-sighted and naive and in doing that we lose out on so much we all have to offer the world.
It’s hard to put yourself out in the public eye. It’s hard to be a business and a woman. It’s hard to consume the divisive messages and news constantly streaming before our eyes and ears every day and stay sane. Bottom line, this time in history is freaking HARD. Let’s not make it harder. Let’s try to find a middle ground, that is where we are all most successful. Lets share information. Let’s execute our right to have an opinion AND also our right to disagree without hurting each other. Let’s let people run businesses but also be human. Let’s have a little more empathy for the world, for others and for ourselves.
Love & Respect,
Erin
P.S. Tomorrow I’m back to fashion, so if you have any requests let me know! :)
Late reply, but here goes — Erin, I’m so glad you posted this. The blog world (and the real world, at that) needs more people like you, who use their considerable platforms for good. I love that you are speaking out about issues close to your heart (and to those of many, many Americans), and in my opinion, it will deepen the bond you have with your true supporters. Anyone who is ignorant and small-minded enough to unsubscribe, well, that says MUCH more about them than it does about you.
Keep on fighting the good fight. I’ll keep reading as long as you are writing!
P.S. I gave my sister-in-law your first book for Christmas back in 2014 and she LOVES it … we can’t wait for your second!
I applaud your speaking out and appreciate your ability to articulate your thoughts so clearly. I happen to agree with you and I’m glad you present a holistic view. It makes me feel like we “know” you and what you care about – and respect you as a business woman and a mother.
Amen. Good post. I’m sorry you have to read peoples negative and one sided thoughts. Most people don’t take other peoples points of view well.
Well said!!! Keep doing what you are doing!!!
Bravo for speaking. I don’t always agree with your views but I can respect you and your passion. I grew up in a different part of the US that shaped and molded my opinions and views. However, I can agree that you have excellent taste and I love reading your blog. Much love. Keep on keeping on.
Maybe going back to magazines isnt such a bad idea for those that want to look at pretty photos. Bloggers bring in personal opinions AND they are entitled to do so.
I have read your blog for years but rarely comment. For me, honestly, I felt like you were way out of reach/out of my league until you started writing an occasional real life/speaking out post. Those posts have made me feel so much mite connected to you, and that your design and style posts may be attainable also! I hope this makes a little sense :)
Erin,
I appreciate this non-emotional “letter” to us. Like you, I read your political posts and I don’t dare comment b/c I would be eaten alive. You and I differ drastically on probably many issues. My dream job was to be ” that we are only good for one thing”…Not really, but you get the idea. All I ever wanted was to be a homemaker – a wife and mother to a large brood. Luckily, I married a man who respects and appreciates me for that and helps me fulfill these dreams of mine. But I believe in The Feminine Genius (as I have read Pope John Paul II refer to it) and that women bring a wholly unique perspective to whichever vocation and job they were created for. I am so stinking glad my sister is a charge nurse at a huge hospital. I am so proud of my dear college friend for being the CEO of a HUGE publication. I, like you, am a mother. Like you, I am emotionally charged. Like you, I think there are abuses and problems with what is happening, but I do recognize that with policies, there will always be concessions, and that good people can disagree. You don’t know me, so you do not realize that I never accept crimes against humanity as an acceptable concession. But you and I would differ on what that all means, I am guessing. I love what you bring to the design world. I disagree with many of your other posts, but in reading them, I am reminded of my own emotions and I am convinced that most people, on both sides of the issue, want what is best for our country and individual humans. We may disagree on what that is, but letters like this help in the conversation of understanding where others are coming from. I cannot stand the conservative talk radio crud that is out there – (Yeah, yeah, yeah, every now and again something legit is said, and I am as conservative as any of your readers who wants to hurt me right now! :-)) I also cannot stand the mainstream media. They drank the kool-aid and it blows my mind. And then it dawned on me…they ALL get paid to stir the pot, cause problems, find strife. There are so many lies put out there and they are all very obvious to me when it is coming from the “liberal” slant, but I can honestly say that I am sure I am ignorant to many of the conservative lies. I just learned what “Bleeding Hearts” meant. I have been called a Nazi online. How is the name calling and emotional, reactionary responses helpful to solving the problems? While I did marry a 100% German, I deny that 40%-ish german ancestry I have in favor of the 15% Irish. We have one son who is 1/2 Chinese and 1/3 Ecuadorian. We have two sons from Ethiopia…”brown” – they say. Apparently, Somalians and Nigerians are black to them. I really do not consider myself a racist or ignorant, and I don’t think the media on either side is helping. Thank you for this calm response. No, despite disagreeing with you, I don’t think you should shut up… But I do appreciate this reasonable approach. And I am pretty sure you and I could enjoy some great wine and/or coffee together despite our differences. I am sorry for the negative comments by my fellow “Conservatives” (ugh…I’m trying to use fewer names b/c it puts us all in boxes.). I do know how they feel and where they are coming from. It feels as though we are being very attacked and it is uncool to not hate Trump despite the fact that Obama, Clinton and the Bushes all said the same thing he is saying right now re: illegal immigration. Thanks for taking the first step in an honest dialogue. I just wish we could all drink that wine in the same room and see faces…it makes it harder to call names and be reactionary.
Be you– your style is beautiful because you are passionate about what you care about. Thank you for being strong enough to be vulnerable. Keep sharing!
I love your blog and enjoy all of your content –personal, editorial, decor and fashion posts. The multi facets keeps it real and engaging. Don’t stop! You’re the best!
Sending support and respect. I will come here because you let your voice be heard. Thanks for using your platform in this way, Erin.
I am so glad you take a stand on things that matter to you! I cannot believe what is going on in this country right now it is a sad time to be American. I couldn’t believe that Melania Trump wore that jacket with the statement on it, I don’t really care do you, to visit children taken from their parents what in the world was she thinking.
Thank you for expressing your opinion, we need more people to speak up to bring attention to these sad issues.
I agree with everything you have said. There comes a time where those of us who play by the rules of decent decorum must speak out against such brutality. Nazi Germany was, in part strengthened by folks keeping silent, being polite and following the rules of normal society. Your post was truthful, respectful and heartfelt about a cruel and heartless policy of our government. Thank you for posting it.
I started to read for the pretty pictures and stayed because I love what YOU do. Thank you for putting into words the sexism implicit within this pressure to stay quiet, and for taking a stance even when it can be uncomfortable. I’m disappointed to read the anger and cruelty in some of the other commenters’ posts, so I wanted (for the first time!) to reach out and say I am applauding you. Thank you, really truly.
Thanks for standing up, even though it might mean that you might lose a very tiny number of not very great customers anyway. Thanks, too for being such a powerhouse, the way that you forge ahead and still speak your heart is such a great example and template for those of us who maybe aren’t so strong and brave to learn to stand up a little taller too.
your profile rised with me Erin. It is a brave woman/business that speaks up because there are so many ignorant people who get their information from fox “news”. it is appalling when other women defend this deviant behavior and bash you.
I do not recognize my countrymen/women any longer. for the first time in my life I am embarrassed to be American
Debra…Name calling is unattractive. This post shows how close minded you are. How ironic that you decry women bashing women while you, in the same breath, bash women. For the first time in my life, I’m embarrassed to be a woman.
“For evil to triumph good men need to do nothing”
It is our duty as individuals, organizations, and companies to speak out when we witness a violation of human rights. Which is why the American Pediatrics Association, the American Psychological Association, the Pope, American /United /Southwest Airlines, the Red Cross , CEOs of Apple, Cisco, Google, Facebook and countless others have spoken out. We only need to study history to understand what happens when a society does NOT speak out.
I applaud you Erin for having a moral compass and using your voice.
Dear Erin,
I encourage you and your readers to read about the work being done by people in this country helping children. Please consider volunteering or contributing to a local home for children. Take a few minutes of your time and read this article for example: https://www.theatlantic.com/national/archive/2014/06/modern-orphans-of-mississippi/371906/. Or go to the Palmer Home website and watch the video about the good being done for children in need here in the US. My husband will be volunteering his time and talents for DIY next week, along with many other volunteers, at the Palmer Home in Columbus Mississippi. He also does the same for a local home in Anderson, SC. See if there is a place like this near you, and offer your services. Erin, you are such a talented and energetic young woman with such a concern for children, I can just imagine what you and others like you could do for homes such as these, rooms for children, raising funds, etc. Use your voice for tangible good. Channel your desire for a better world into doing good. Maybe this is something you may already do, I’m not sure. I believe there are lots of people in this country who would be shocked at the lives some people live in the US. May God bless your precious, caring heart.
I’ve read your blog for years Erin and I have no problem with you expressing your opinions. I feel like you do about these topics, and I also support your right to express yourself. It is YOUR blog. I think readers would do well to remember that. Don’t agree with Erin? Forgot that she wasn’t just an interior designer but also a mother and a citizen with her own opinions? The. You really should go read something else if it bothers you so much. If you aren’t capable of respect and civil discourse there are lots of other blogs out there to serve your need for “pretty things” and no opinions. At the end of the day it’s her blog and her life.
Thank you, Thank you, Thank you!!! What a terrific well written post! I echo what so many of the comment’s have mentioned. I enjoy your blog not only for the pretties but, for your personal views as well. I too, feel we can not stay silent and I will not! I just learned this evening (per Time.com) that the Navy is considering a proposal for constructing an “Austere” immigration/detention camp” for up to 47,000 people in (Concord CA) a neighboring city of mine. Our congressman Mark Desaulnier called it “Madness”. I’m in total agreement and at age 61, I have full recollection of the many Viet-nam, anti-war demonstrations/protests that occurred for years at this same Navy Base. If history shows anything…the S.F bay area citizens will stand up and protest against this too!! Scary times we’re living in!!
Right here with you Erin. You have every right to write about how you feel and you do so eloquently and responsibly.
Just another voice in the crowd to say thank you for speaking out! I respect you more for taking a stand (and I completely agree with you)! Thank you!
Bravo, Erin! I couldn’t have said it better….
To me, it’s simple: It’s your blog and you can write about whatever you want. You cannot please all the people all the time.
I love your blog and your book! To me, it’s nuts to suggest you should ONLY write about design. To NOT comment on some of the atrocities and sad things that happen – and to pretend that things are pretty all the time – is not real. And you are real.
keep it up!
Thank you Erin. So many people are feeling the pain of theses children and their parents. It’s hard otomake it through the day without thinking about what we can each contribute. Your speaking out is so important!
Just another comment to tell you how absolutely wonderful I think it is that you speak your opinion. I can find beautiful, make me happy pictures anywhere. The internet is rife with them. What I love most about your blog and your work is the strong, creative woman behind it. It wasn’t long ago that women were not allowed to have an opinion and were raised to only please others. Continue being the brave, beautiful, imaginative, loving and INTELLIGENT person that you are. We will back you all the way!!! xo
I don’t always agree with your viewpoints but I respect your right to speak out on them. And may I say, women who are NOT moms have just as much right to do so! As you said, we can not read or read to understand. The only time I get annoyed is when someone speaks their mind and then gets upset if people don’t want to read anymore. You realize that may translate into losing some readership and accept that. Please continue to speak your mind, and respecting those who may feel differently. That’s what this country is supposed to be about.
I hope you’ll continue to speak out, Erin. The world won’t change if people remain silent, in fact that’s how some of the worse atrocities have happened – the majority allowed it and stayed silent. ALL of us should be speaking up, now and in the future. XO
Bravo Erin. Perfectly stated.
Bravo to you.
There was a time when I worried Putin would invade Europe, and I thought about where I would flee with my kids–U.S.? Africa (figuring it would be left alone)? Now I think about getting my family out of the U.S. if things go south. We would all do anything to save our loved ones.
Thank you for speaking your mind and refusing to sit quietly by because someone else might disagree with you. This is too important for that nonsense.
Thank you for this thoughtful, intelligent, and articulately written post. Thank you also for your bravery in using your platform to occasionally address vital issues that, inevitably, will generate unkind (or worse) comments. I am not as brave in my social media presence for fear that it will damage my social relations and business prospects. And then, of course, I beat myself up for making that (less brave, more selfish) choice.
Bravo Erin! I admire you even more because you are willing to share this. Thank you for having the courage to do so!
I have been meaning to write on your Instagram feed ever since you posted the sad news about Kate Spade. I was going to tell you HOW MUCH I appreciate your candor and openness on mental health issues. I feel like if everyone was as up front and honest about mental health as you are it would be a huge first step in addressing this problem. Our silence and shame only makes a heartbreaking problem even worse. I am old enough to be your mom, and yes, I enjoy your style posts both on home and fashion, but I also really admire your courage in standing up for some of these important issues that are important to you. So from one soapbox to another, thank you!
Get it, girl. Keep doing what you’re doing. I, for one, enjoy reading your more personal posts. You’ve got an audience and you use it wisely. Your post about an important issue might be the thing that pushes one more person to donate to a worthy cause or volunteer for those in need. If someone isn’t interested in a certain post they can simply click away. It is my feeling that those who complain about reading these types of posts have yet to realize exactly how priveleged they are. It can be painful to acknowledge just how much others are suffering, hopefully they will come around. Thank you for the work you put into your blog and especially for the thought you put into posts like these.
I like reading about any subject on your blog, but after writing about families in need, how do you return to highlighting clothes and household items? How do you find balance and perspective? Would you consider creating a charitable line of products to support refugee families?
Crying migrant girl on TIME magazine cover was not separated from mother, family says. IE; TIME magazine LIED.
https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-5869829/Father-two-year-old-face-child-separation-crisis-speaks-out.html
As a British citizen, I promise you that you ought to never, ever believe anything written in the Daily Mail. It is Britain’s fake news and a real blight on us as a nation.
That this is the only thing that you have to say about what is happening to our ‘Democracy’ speaks volumes about your character. Shame on you.
Thanks Diane, they don’t like facts, gets in the way of their hatred a la Peter Fonda. Shame on them.
We live in a Republic dear, not a democracy. And is that erroneous comment all you have to offer? That’s probably a good thing.
What kind of response is this to Lorrie’s comment? She is lacking in character and should be ashamed for pointing out Time magazine is using fake optics to push an agenda? If anyone’s comment is shameful , it is yours. Time magazine exploited this child.
Okay. But we know for a fact that roughly 2,000 children have recently been separated from their relatives and sent to internment camps. Your point about that particular child (and I’m not sure the Daily Mail UK is the most reliable source, either) doesn’t negate that ugly facts.
Daily Mail and other publications have quoted the father of that child saying his wife took their kid and paid someone 6k to get them here to look for a job. Nobody is negating the ugly facts. It’s interesting ya’ll were silent when this was happening under the obama admin. Pres. Trump is at least doing something about it.
Very thoughtful & well written
I enjoy reading many bloggers and so far I have not had to be subjected to this political conversation ( please don’t tell me otherwise) on their sites. Very disappointing.
No one is forcing you to read. So buh-bye, girl.
Because many bloggers do not have the guts and balls to attack issues because they want things to remain “pretty”. Well, this is life and it is not pretty. Kudos to Erin for speaking out. You should be disappointed your government. I am a Bahamian looking on I am wondering what is US coming to. I am disappointed because more people need to speak out against this tyrant. Children are separated from mothers and God knows when they will be reunited.
Sounds like this blogger no longer meets your needs. I’ve lost interest in bloggers in the past whose posts no longer interested me, or tastes changed, or whatever reason. You know what I did? I simply stopped reading them. You know what I didn’t do? Comment about how much they disappointed me for not catering their content to ME in an attempt to shame them and make them feel bad about themselves.
Oh, I am not shamed or feel bad about myself. When words like racist are thrown about and you have no idea who you are talking to, that is disappointing.
Kudos for choosing to share your passionate feelings about the state of things here in the US. I wholeheartedly agree that we cannot and should not stay silent about the atrocities we see playing out daily. Our children are watching. Complacency shows them that we are either complicit or afraid to speak up. I am glad you are NEITHER of those. Thank you for sharing!
I support your business even more because you speak out. Thank you for making the world a more beautiful place because of your blog, your design company and by sharing your opinion. We all should be engaged and responsible!
Your open posts about body image, motherhood and other substantive topics are why your blog is one of my favorites. I adore your style and design- but your willingness to open up and share so much of your personal life- victories and challenges alike- is something that can’t be easy and should be commended, not condemned. I’m sending my love and support! There are plenty of superficial blogs out there for those that don’t agree.
You have my full support! Keep on saying what needs to be said.
Go Erin! Love & support to you.
Erin – Your posts are so insightful, filled with passion, and inspiring. Thank you, thank you, thank you for sharing your POV! I nominate you for any leadership role outside of your brand.
I have been reading your blog for a long time, and one of the things I have always enjoyed about it was that along with design, and “pretty things” you bring an element of realism into it, talking about your thoughts, feelings, real life experiences. It’s what makes you so relatable.
I’m an interior designer too, and I too find the current political climate hard to navigate, especially if clients try to get an opinion out of me and I feel like I have to stay completely neutral for fear of my reputation, not looking professional , etc. I find that all to be very sad.
I don’t know how our world got to this place of being so vehemently against the opinions of others, especially if they don’t follow the “swan song” of their respective side. One of my favorite things about politics (if there is a favorite thing to be had, ha) is listening to people on each side thoughtfully and letting the ideas you agree with from each side mold your belief system. I don’t love the “one size fits all” live and die by your party ideologies that seem to be the norm now.
All that rambling to say, I thought this was beautifully written and I’m glad you have a voice, because a lot of us are listening!
Thank you for stating your point of view clearly and with heart. This world needs a lot more heart.
I’m so glad you posted this. You are an incredibly talented designer and writer, and one of the things that is so powerful about your blog is your willingness to be open and vulnerable share your humanness – as a mother, as someone who has recovered from an eating disorder, as someone who has suffered anxiety, and yes, as someone who has opinions about politics and what is going on in our world! That too! Too often on social media we don’t see the real human behind the pretty pictures, and I certainly appreciate your transparency and your putting yourself out there and I know others do too. Carry on – you have so many readers who support and appreciate you. XO
Beautifully, if not perfectly, written!
Erin, you’re right on target. Keep up the good work and illegitimi non carborundum.
YES!!
Erin, keep writing from your heart!
You express what many of us are feeling and those who disagree should go read someone else.
Brava!
But you have to realize nobody follows you for your political commentary even if I happen to agree. We don’t care. Perhaps we find blogs like this a nice refuge? When you do this it is more of the same. We follow this for styling advice. Nothing more.
Disagree.
Speak for yourself Shopcrave!
Then only read the design posts. You have a choice. And are you paying for this? Uh, yeah, no, you’re not!
Good for you, Erin. You have a strong and powerful voice, and a well deserved popular platform – use it for what you’re passionate about! We need women in leadership positions and in the public eye to rally people for important causes; never stop doing that. This is free content for readers, we’re not paying you and hence we have no right over what you choose to write about and address – that’s why it’s a BLOG. If you don’t like it, move on! You owe us nothing, and we’re just so grateful that you continue to show up and share your passions and inspiration. More power to you!
Erin, I have so many [supportive] comments I hardly know where to start. Firstly, it’s immoral to abuse other human beings, particularly children and others with no voice. No amount of back-justification with policies and laws and misplaced righteousness (as of those who claim it’s the parents’ fault ) will ever supersede that. Our grandparents fought wars and sacrificed their lives to protect those rights when the laws of other lands went evil, and we’ve been raised our whole lives to be on the watch so that the horrors never ever repeat. And now, slowly and inexorably, they are. Of course we are freaking out, rightly so. Speak out, protest, preach – everywhere and constantly until the abuse stops.
And as for your platform – your platform is yours, it is your business (you are not in the employ of another) and your loyal readers follow for the whole person. If someone wants pretty images alone and out of all context they can go hang out on Pinterest. Good design btw, like all good art, is always a reflection of the designer’s ideas in the context of our current world, even when it’s a sanctuary away from it. It’s always political and personal and expressive.
Part of what makes being alive in this time HARD is the rampant hate (in the form of abuse, justification of that abuse, racism, sexism) that people seem to fling freely in their vitriolic comments. You are right to call it out for want it is. You are not to be confined to someone else’s misguided idea of your ‘lane’ – use the whole dang freeway. It’s hard to not get triggered by the haters; just know that you are supported by and inspiring to the vast majority of your readers. Follow your internal compass, call out the hate, just as you have done, and carry on.
love this.
I don’t understand why someone feels the need to un-follow your design blog because they don’t agree with your political views. Like you said, we are multi-faceted, multi-layered individuals and you can certainly admire and appreciate (and learn from) someone’s design expertise without feeling that their stance on an issue negates all that. These topics should get people thinking, encourage them to speak out and continue the dialog. The world is freaking hard, and we should all show generous amounts of kindness to everyone. I appreciate ALL of your posts Erin- keep up the good work!
I agree it’s your blog & you are totally entitled to post whatever you want. I also think that anyone who posts their opinions publicly has to be open to the fact that some will disagree with those opinions which they are also entitled to do. It’s the hordes of followers that then attack the person who disagreed that I find disturbing- we are all allowed to be multi/ dimensional human beings with differing opinions.
Thank you again, Erin, for expressing your opinion and doing it so eloquently! I support you 100%.
So well said, Erin…Hats off to you for taking a stance, and shame on those who think you shouldn’t have one.
I applaud you for not being silenced because you might fear losing a few bloggers, clients, etc. What you say is important and will be a shining example for so many, especially your son.
Damn straight Erin! Love your blog, your writing, and that you speak out. Keep at it!
Hi Erin- Loooong time follower, first time commenter. I love that you occasionally write about Human Rights and Travesties of Mankind, such as what is happening in the US not only to the children but also to Women in general. As a result of your post yesterday I donated to 3 of the charities you listed as well as planned Parenthood. I was very disappointed to see the soulless comments from some of your followers. It was disturbing, especially the ones who keep leaving more and more comments. Why stay on the blog if you dont agree, just move on, go watch FOX. Thank you again for your courage . I wanted you to know you had made a difference I DONATED and will again. Love Morsey
Awesome, Erin. Keep your voice loud and strong. How anyone with a pulse can say that separating babies from their parents is ok, is reprehensible. You are allowed to speak out and I am grateful you are. ❤️ I grew up in an abusive home, experienced terror on a regular basis and at the age of 46 am still suffering with PTSD. The trauma these babies are experiencing is disgusting on an immediate level and is going to have long term, serious consequences. It is frightening and horrifying.
I understand that you feel frustrated, angry, etc but I think the problem with using your business as a personal platform is that many people who don’t agree with you can/will hold this against you. It has nothing to do with being a woman and Yes people do read your blog for your expertise in design, not your social/political opinions. I would never feel it appropriate to voice my personal opinions on any controversial subjects while at work except for private conversations between coworkers. Maybe the era of online business blues the lines between personal and professional. I would also mention that while some industry leaders have made personal statements, they can afford to anger customers and personally I have stopped using products when I’ve felt a head of business strayed into the political.
I’d like to add that there are multiple reasons families are separated: When a parent is in custody for violations in addition to illegal crossing, when the child has been sent alone to cross the border and when the child(teenage) comes on their own. Also the children are not permanently taken but are either reunited with the parents of relatives are found who will assume responsibility for the child. My first thought is why would the parents illegally cross a border with child in to win the first place and most especially why would they send a child alone with a trafficer?
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Finally!
They are fleeing danger much worse than what they are facing. That’s was so sad. They are leaving villages where gangs force children to join (boys) and victimize them (rape girls). I don’t think anyone goes through what they are doing because it’s just a little bit better here, they are seeking a better life or in some cases life itself.
Actually, much of this migration has to do with NAFTA and China becoming a huge player in global trade. NAFTA allowed US subsided corn to be sold in Mexico, which artificially decreased the price of tortillas, which are a major consumer good in Mexico. Also, NAFTA allowed large corporate farming industry to move into Mexico, which decimated locally owned family farms – this also led to the rise of drug cartels in Northern Mexico (seeking income lost from local industry). After NAFTA was instituted, there was an enormous increase in immigration from Mexico to the US. It has not been fair to the Mexican people. There is a much larger issue here than children being abandoned at the border by Coyotes or by children separated by their parents at illegal crossing points.
perfectly said.
I am happy to hear whatever you want to say!
1000% agree with you about these horrible times, guns, trump, kidnapping children, you have every right to express your opinion and use the platform you created, and so what if you lose a few useless trump voters, good riddance.
What makes me the saddest is that it is women not supporting a woman.
(to tell you the truth, I love your deeply personal posts and your opinion and question authority posts the BEST so don’t ever be silent)
Thank thank thank you.
Bravo.
Agreed. And now that we have a president who literally has never served their country ever, in politics, military, charity, or otherwise, and runs the White House like a reality show…the time of stay in your lane is over. It’s a bit like how I NEVER want to hear a Republican complain about immortality again….
BESIDES, it’s not like you are debating some minuscule line in a huge comprehensive immigration reform bill…you are standing up to say enough is enough we are not a country who steals 8 month olds from their parents and detains both of them after they’ve turned to us as their last hope to escape from violence and domestic abuse, only so that we can use those children as a deterrent to other asylum seekers who have no options and as political pawns to get a leg up in the midterms in DC…and then insult the entire country’s intelligence by having two separate contradictory lies spread endlessly through state news media that is not their fault/there is no policy! ugh! Anyone who can’t see that, you don’t need.
You are spot on, thanks for calling attention to the not so subtle biases women still face today. Keep paving the way, I’m a fan.
I like you even more for sharing this side of yourself. Thanks for setting an awesome example and using your platform for good.
Thank you for speaking out. It is really freaking hard right now but knowing that there are so many people speaking out helps to make it a bit easier.
Preach. I was heartened and impressed when you and the other interior design/lifestyle bloggers I follow shared their disgust at the treatment of immigrants families at the border seeking asylum. I was so grateful that you, and they, also share my feelings and political opinions on these matters. It means we are whole, well-rounded people. Not two-dimensional vanity obsessed puff-balls.
Beautifully said, Erin! “This time in history is freaking HARD. Let’s not make it harder.” Wow – if that doesn’t sum it up, I don’t know what does. Thank you for being brave enough to speak up and out!
Hi Erin,
Thank you so much for yesterday’s post, then this one. I’m a late 20s fan who has been following you for many years. I admire you for many reasons, but what connected me to your blog more than any other (and I follow a lot of others :) ) is your unwavering honesty and bravery in posting topics such as these and your personal ones. I am so grateful to have your online presence and voice to read as I navigate my 20s and today’s stressful world. You are a role model to so many!
Thank you again and keep speaking out- it’s more important now than ever.
THIS is exactly what’s missing in the blogosphere. Women need more posts like this, Erin. We need a place where a woman does more than project a false, idealized version of a life. We need more than pretty interiors and cute outfits and photos of all the superficial material items we “need” to spend our money on to have a life that isn’t our own. I wish all of us as women would spend at least as much time giving thoughtful considerstion to other aspects of the spaces we reside in. Yes, that includes how we treat our fellow human beings regardless of where they happen to be born or where their political opinions land.
Woo! Preach, sister! 🙌😍
You are bravely being decent. Rock on.👊🏽👊🏽👊🏽XOXO
Brilliantly said!! Amen!
Erin – I come to your blog because of your ‘voice’…maybe because it echoes my thoughts – politically, decoratively, compassionately etc etc.
Keep on blogging as YOU!
I for one find awareness of the world REFRESHING. For those who have their heads in the sand ..,go read elsewhere.
Beautifully written, Erin! Couldn’t agree more! Thank you!
Hi Erin – thank you for your voice. To borrow a quote from Elie Weisel, “What hurts the victim most is not the cruelty of the oppressor, but the silence of the bystander.” These are BABIES and they are TERRIFIED. Just incase anyone reading this would like to help hands-on, you can apply to become a child advocate. The Young Center will pair you with a child and you can help them navigate the system. Here’s the link – perhaps you’d like to add it to your previous post. Feeling helpless makes all of this so much worse and I was really grateful when someone shared this link with me. There are currently no plans to reunite the children already separated with their parents. If your city isn’t listed just check “other” https://www.theyoungcenter.org/volunteer-at-the-young-center/
Thank you, Donna.
I had no idea this existed so I appreciate your feedback and suggestion.
Thank you, Erin! I love your speaking out. I’m in my 70s and didn’t speak out when younger because it wasn’t “nice” to do so. Keep on doing what is in your heart in all areas of your life. I love to hear your feelings!
Glad there is another Baby Boomer reading. You expressed my sentiments perfectly!
GO ERIN!
Love this!
It is YOUR blog!!! The arrogance of these women to presume that you somehow serve them. Seriously!!
And I for one am very thankful that you choose to speak up on these issues. It gives me hope that they will be overcome when people with platforms are willing to put aside their commercial interests and promote humanity and empathy.
It is YOUR blog!!! The arrogance of these women to presume that you somehow serve them. Seriously!!
And I for one am very thankful that you choose to speak up on these issues. It gives me hope that they will be overcome when people with platforms are willing to put aside their commercial interests and promote humanity and empathy.
Yes, please let me know what to wear when sharing my talents and intellect! You do so beautifully and if your next post is “back” to fashion, I’m hoping you share the proper attire for highlighting your back bone! If the world is going to continue spinning, women have to jump in with both feet and share their voice! Kudos to you!
Hello Erin I’m a portuguese follower, and was So happy when I saw your instagram post. The question in hand is not political, it’s human. I haven’t been myself since I heard those caged childreen cry, i hold on to my baby daughter and pray hard, that each childreen rehunits with their families. My heart can’t take, the photos, and the cry hunts me. I too posted on my instagram and faceboook what was happening, and urged people too share, and fight against this atrocity. To my surprise , I got more comments when I post a new wallpaper in my shop. Social media should be about causes, but it’s not! It’s about gossip, vanity and voyeurism. Let’s not forguet a place to dump hate and frustration. If there was ever a moment to take part, THIS IS IT. So I thank you, for letting me believe that I wasn’t a selfish bitch, when I decided to bring a person into this world. Proud of you! Thank you so much.
Kudos to you. You’ve worked hard to earn this platform, use it any damn way you please and if some don’t like it they can just keep scrolling past!!
Go, Erin!
Erin, Fortunately, the USA is currently still a place where first amendment rights provide for responsible freedom of speech, and I absolutely champion your decision to voice your ethical position. I appreciate your style insights; your courageous willingness to call for accountability when accountability is due is what matters most.
You nailed it, Erin. Bravo !!!
With you on all points. This is your right and you should feel free to exercise it. BRAVO!!!
Nailed it.
Love that you called out the sexism of remarks telling you not to express opinions outside of design. Using your platform and sphere of influence to speak up about your values is what makes you a great American and a person of integrity. Keep at it!
It just always amazes me when the bloggers I follow who “post pretty things” continue to do so without a peep when real life issues are happening around all of us. I always wonder, how does one post about sofas when there was just a tragic mass shooting or some other huge event, with seemingly not a single thought about it. I find that more disturbing than someone having an opinion that doesn’t match mine. I applaud you for continuing to allow your social media to reflect all of who you are. I am a long time follower (but infrequent commenter) and I think you’re doing great.
Well said!!!
Agreed!
Thanks for speaking your mind…this is America. You can disagree but doesn’t mean you need to be silent. Keep up the great sense of style but also the truth about being a decent human being.
Can you get your meltdown over with and go back to living your privileged life before you stroke out? It’s exhausting. I’m all for expressing an opinion and I don’t agree with how things were handled either but enough of the emotional drama already. Take a lesson from Erika Powell , Lauren Liess and others. No, that doesn’t mean you have to stay silent but make your point then move on. It just seems like you want to keep arguing because of the engagement I read on your comments.
Go read something else! And like I said to someone else, are you paying Erin for her time?
Hey Julie, you’re exhausting,! Move on.
I’m pretty sure her point has been made, girlfriend- and eloquently so.
Exhausting, to the max.
Amen, sister. Please keep doing what you’re doing.
thank you and pls keep speaking your truth! People appreciate it
Te sigo desde hace mucho tiempo desde España, y me sorprendió gratamente tu post del otro dia denunciando la política de inmigración de tu país. He leído el post de hoy, y estoy muy de acuerdo contigo. Todas las empresas, a traves de sus patrocinios o acciones expresan sus opiniones. Tu tambien debes hacerlo. Y sobre todo, porque asi sientes que debes hacerlo. Y nada mejor para ser feliz que hacer lo que te dicta el corazón.
Sigue así. Yo te seguiré siguiendo. Desde España con amor.
Hi Erin,
I 100% agree with you that any mother, or human being, finds it absolutely heart wrenching to even think about children being separated from their parents. Do any of us enjoy hearing about it? I certainly don’t. It’s horrifying.
In the comments section yesterday of your Instagram, several people asked you what your suggestions were to fix this problem. I believe in one place you said, “that’s for lawmakers to figure out.” As someone who admits they didn’t vote in a single election until 2016, I find this a shocking statement. If you have a platform (and you do, you’ve been a very popular blogger for a long time and have many followers!), I think many people would love to hear more specific thoughts on what you would suggest. I don’t discount your or anyone else’s opinion at all, but there is no follow-up suggested, besides, “let’s reunite children with their parents.” I’m not making light of the sentiment at all, but hollow statements with no proposed solutions don’t get us anywhere.
Your opinionated pieces are one of my favourite things about your blog – because they’re so real! I love your honesty and humanness. Thanks for being so brave and open.
Bravo. I love it when people speak out (especially women). As a female POC in this political climate, I do not want to knowingly support any business that aligns with any aspects of the current administration. My money and energy are better spent supporting people and companies who demonstrate the values I hold dear.
I remember being shocked when I read that this past election was the first time you voted (but I understood your rationale about living in a state that has always aligned with your views- wish I had that comfort!) . Keep using your voice, and your vote.
Can I also just say how impressed I am not only that you stood up for your beliefs yesterday, but also that you were able to respond so eloquently and quickly? Every time I read something and want to respond to it, all I can write out is angry thoughts – and they are never this well-written. So, please continue to NOT stay in your “lane” and keep being more than a place to share “beautiful things”. Henry is lucky to have a mother who is talented AND strong. And we are lucky to have a woman like you using her platform to speak out about what’s important.
And damn, you are an amazing writer. That’s all.
Bravo !my friend and fellow mom,business,woman,conscious human.
How can anyone remain silent is beyond me.
Keep your articulate and. And thoughtful posts coming!
You are awesome! Couldn’t agree more!
Long time follower, second comment (my first was when you went public about your infertility struggle). I wanted to highlight an important point you made about large corporations not shying away from taking a stance politically when it matters, and echo that you have every right to do the same. I work for a large public company that has a core value of equality. When there are policies put in place that puts that value in jeopardy or employees at risk, our CEO speaks out and even publicly lobbies to get laws changed. No one questions those actions, and no one should question your right as business owner to speak out either. I admire you taking advantage of your platform to speak out, and hope you are not discouraged by those hateful comments to prevent you doing so in the future!
Bravo. Very well said. I am one long time reader that loves your beautiful things posts and your passionate political posts even more! Thank you for using your voice!
Yes!!! Thank you for sharing this today.
Very well said! Not to mention the beautiful homes you feature are meant to house families, so these topics don’t seem that far detached from that perspective. I also appreciate you mentioning that people are complex characters and that just because we disagree doesn’t mean we should cut people out. It’s something for us all to keep in mind. xo
Excellent point
I actually came here today because I thought you’d have something to say on this issue –and I am so GLAD you use your platform for this discourse! THANK YOU, ERIN!
ps Staying in your lane is BS. No woman worth her salt should follow that advice. Rock the boat! (And rock the vote, too!)
Thank you Erin. I absolutely agree it is time for women to speak up. I applaud you because It takes courage to speak up when you have a brand. You will inevitably alienate some people. However, the cost is worth it in the long run. We cannot in good conscious stand by and not speak up when our own government is committing atrocities. If only the politicians in Congress had the courage to speak up too!
Beautiful post!
Right on! Sometimes critics are just people who cannot see the world the way you do.
This post makes me admire you even more! Very well stated!
Well said! Thanks for all that you do. This blog is so much more than pretty pictures. I think of it as a lifestyle blog, and what’s happening in our world right now is important and needs to discussed. Thanks again!
Thank you. Shame on those that want to live in a world we worked – and continue to work – so hard to get away from. We are far more than pretty. We are smart, intelligent, motivated and take no crap women, mothers, business owners, daughters, etc. While we live in a sad and scary world sometimes, we are also seeing democracy work and realize that collectively we have a voice to stop #metoo, seek equal pay for equal work and end family separation at the border, to name a few recent injustices we are making progress on. We just need a leader to get behind. Thanks for being one of them. Keep it up. Continue to be bold, brave and beautiful just like your brand.
Well said! I follow you because of the pretty stuff but AlSO because you are honest and real as a businesswoman, mother, wife and human!
Thank you for always speaking to what you believe in. I love your pretty pictures, houses, and posts but I have so much admiration for you for being truthfully and outspoken about what you believe in.
Well said. Thank you for a beautiful post.
Love this!! Thank you for continuing to an inspiration!
Well said! (as always) If they don’t like your point of view don’t read and just look at the pretty pictures. You are not asking for their point of view. Sometimes it’s the power of the business person voice that gets heard first. I am sorry that people feel the need to tell you how you should control your business.
Thanks for letting your voice be heard and please on speaking out!
Love this post and I want to hear what you want to say about all things- rugs, paint color, motherhood and politics. Shame on those people who tell you to be anything less than you are.
Bravo!! It’s your business, it’s your blog, you should be able to talk about whatever you want to. People can “unfollow” if it’s so offensive to them.
Yes girl, say it louder for the people in the back!!!!
Erin- good for you. I have seen these same comments on your Blog and I just want to scream. For anyone that follows your blog they understand how open and passionate you are. This can be said for design but also for issues that effect everyone. You have every right to post your opinion on any given subject. And like you said, you make your living from design but you are a human first. I am so glad you have taken a stand and that for those that don’t like your opinion they are more than welcome to move along….they too have every right to have an opinion on any subject. But you should not be put in the corner and just speak of pretty things. I think that ship has sailed, unfortunately. In these times everyone should do their utmost to bring light to situations or to stories where humans are affected by others. You have always been nothing but a light, shining your thoughts on anything and everything in a positive way. You have always been kind and respectful, even to those who have not done the same. Anyone who thinks otherwise can go read someplace else. Keep on doing what you are doing. You are doing the right thing! Big Hugs!
Keep on keepin’ on! High fives from the West Coast!
I’ve never loved you or your blog more than I do today. Bravo and keep fighting the good fight – for Henry and for all of us! xoxo
You rock, Erin Gates. Don’t listen to anyone who says otherwise! I admire the way you share your beliefs with us. It takes a lot of courage to take a public stand on an issue. You’re brave woman and more people should be like you!
Erin-
The world could use more people like you! This reminds me of a quote by Winston Churchill..”Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak. Courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen.” That’s the problem…too many people don’t want to listen to anything they disagree with or anything that makes them uncomfortable. Thank God people like yourself with a platform to reach thousands use their voice to speak out on such atrocities. I’m 100% in your corner.
Bravo! Well said. I have endless amounts of respect for you and how you chose to run your business with integrity.
For the most part, I try to research brands I support in all arenas. I appreciate when someone I follow is so open and honest about how they feel and what they believe.
Maybe five years a go I followed you for the pretty pictures, but let’s be real – I am INVESTED in all things Erin Gates. I love your family I’ve never met, I have your first book, I can’t wait to get your next book, I’ve had my eye on some pillows you made and a lamp and we think a lot of the same things are important.
I’m all for it. Keep advocating and posting pretty pictures. You’re awesome
I’ve been following your blog for years, but this is the first time I’ve wanted to comment. Just to say well done, well said, and keep it up!
I find your passion (be it about design, politics, or anything in between) to be inspiring. It’s damn near impossible to find authenticity on the internet these days. You do you, Erin. Anyway, I bet it stings a bit to be on the (ideological) right side of the spectrum about now. Imagine – they have to spout that shit and then look themselves in the face. Ouch. That’d make a lot of people spiteful.
Your last sentence about empathy…YES. I think we all need to gain a bit more empathy towards people in different situations than ours, regardless of politics. Life is not black and white! Empathy could go a long way towards bridging the gap on some of these divisive issues.
You are right – never let anyone silence you!!
You’re the best. That’s all.
Nicely said. You have worked hard to gain a
Platform and you are certainly entitled to use it in any way you choose. Those who disagree can just keep scrolling. Or unfollow. Whatever. You do you.
This post is remarkable! Thank you for saying this! Much needed!
Your best column ever.
Yes
Beautifully stated. That no one “should be reduced to their opinion on one topic” is perfect guidance for how best to be a respectful 21st century human being. Love all of your posts—keep it up!
AMEN
Oh girl, you are fantastic. No one with a brain expects you to be one dimensional, keep bringing us beautiful interiors, wonderful fashion, mom advice AND politically charged posts. I love visiting your little world of the web every couple of days, I always come away more informed and more stylish, win win!
YES! If you have a platform, USE it! People with a voice need to use it for those who can’t be heard. Thank you for not sticking to just “pretty things.”
Hi Erin,
I have read everyone of your “politically charged” posts, and I think the thing that bothers me the most is this…..people who oppose you come here looking for a fight. Anyone who has been reading your blog for a long time knows that you speak up on these issues. So if you only want design, why even come here after something big has happened and you know Erin will speak up? More often than not, those who oppose don’t come to enlighten, create balance points of views, or engage in a civilized manor. Plenty of people have agreed with you, and plenty have not. You let those who oppose your point of view to speak up. At times they have even highjacked your blog to speak up! You have been accused of blocking people who don’t agree with you. I think you only block people who get out of hand, and you have that right. People, if you know how Erin operates, then why come if it bothers you that she will speak up? Why come here just to fight? Where is the respectful exchange of ideas?
Totally agree with this!!!! The fact they post snarky and rude comments rather than thoughtful commentary/critiques proves it. It’s your blog—you do you. If certain readers don’t like it then they don’t have to read it.
I also echo those who’ve expressed their admiration for you using your platform to highlight a human rights issue that you (and most of your readers, I’d wager) consider urgently important.
I also want to add that people who do agree with you should also not come here looking to fight with the people on the opposite side as well. I saw some of this going on yesterday too! I have been guilty of this because it is so emotional. We all need to do better!
Straight from your heart into your blog. Bravo 👏🏻
Respectfully,
Cecilia
Thank you for having the courage to speak your mind.
Yes!!!!!!!!!
Erin – you are lucky because you do have a lot of followers and voice that people will see/listen to. If it wasn’t for people like you, who would we have to stand up to/provide alternative views? I’m not the most eloquent, but i think you get my point. Keep at it!
I love your personal posts. I’m so happy you have a voice and you stand up for what you believe in. I’m with you! Thank you for keeping it real!
Well said! Thank you for being passionate (yet civil ) in discussing issues that are pertinent to all of us. Please keep it up—this world needs more like you. Love your blog!
Erin,
Keep doing what you are doing. I’ve read your blog and followed your life for years, and think you are doing everything right. I enjoy your blog so much because you keep it so real. Granted, I agree with you and relate about 99% of the time lol. Thanks for this post. And good luck this round of IVF! It’s such a tough road.
Thank you for this eloquent and important post. It’s sad you had to write it, but so good that you did. You are doing the right thing in this life Erin, on a lot of levels but most importantly by being focused on raising Henry to know that you will, and we can as mothers, be heard and make a difference … be proud!
You are amazing.
Xxx
Erin,
The last I noticed, those encouraging you to “stay in your lane” are reading your blog for free. Screw them. Keep doing what you’re doing!
Thank you always for sharing your heart and values Erin. Even though I may have different political views in some areas, I’m grateful that you don’t box out relationships because of that. It’s always scary reading comments on personal attack, due to someone thinking what you should or shouldn’t be doing. I’m not an eloquent writer, but seeing attacks on people who have differing positions always makes me hesitant to want to join in on the conversation. I think in many ways, it’s courageous and scary to start the conversation, because no one likes being labeled, and just because you like avocados, doesn’t mean you can’t like strawberries too. Whenever the conversation focuses on the safety and well being of children, I would imagine every mother’s heart breaks, just as mine and your does. Donald Trump got elected for the reasons to strengthen our borders, keep the second amendment protected, denuclearize the Korean peninsula and encourage job growth, among other things. This may sicken some, while bringing optimism and hope for others. It’s ok to be on either side, because there are pros and cons in an imperfect world. I believe every person truly does want what’s best for their neighbor and their country, and of course themselves and their own family, but each person comes to terms with their own beliefs due to their own education and influences. It’s why I love this country, because there is no where else on the planet that is so diverse, so rich in so many cultures and religions. The political realm has sadly turned into an attack on differing values and demeaning another persons intelligence. It is very sad. Thank you for making this a place to share your beliefs. You have built up and incredible community of strong women and I love to see what conversations you will initiate every day. And of course, thank you for being such a talent and sharing your gifts with the world through your work! For your fashion post, can you help give ideas on what to where everyday running on the playground and helping me look half human this summer please?
This is so well written and I couldn’t agree more. I have so struggled with this topic because I am a mother of two young children, and also a believer in border control.
Really fair questions Dorothy. Nobody wants children separated from their parents. But how do we enforce the laws that exist and if we turn a blind eye, which has been done for all past administrations, are we not ecouraging/enabling desperate parents to do desperate things?? I hear people saying they are not for open borders, but doesn’t a non-enforecment of border laws essentially create an open border? Should there be no deterrant? There are lots of parents with children in need in ALL of our communities, should we leave our doors unlocked and allow them in, feed them, clothe them, provide them shelter education and healthcare? Should we demand and expect the same of our neighbors? Are we inhumane, racist, xenophobic if we dont? Hard questions. I wish we spent more time in real, long term solutions and less time assuming the person with the differing opinion doesn’t want the same end goal. I appreciate Katy’s kind, civil, respectful tone above and Erin of course has the right to say whatever she wants on her own blog.
I think more people like Dorothy, Erin, and Katy should be in state legislatures and Congress. People who can civilized conversations. Dorothy, to your point, I support some form of border control, but I also support a path to citizenship. I also think we would all benefit from remembering we’re a nation of immigrants. There are major organizations and industries that frankly depend on the labor of the people we’re talking about. It’s so disheartening to see how polarized Congress has become. It seems all they care about – on both sides of the aisle is getting re-elected.
Erin, I really am just curious and absolutely not looking for a fight as I agree with you that what is happening is terribly inhumane, but how would you propose we deal with the abundance of illegals who are here? Should we kick them out WITH their children? Should we never kick them out allow them to continue to cross our borders illegally and force us, the taxpayers, to fund their schooling and healthcare? I feel like we continue to do nothing and we show them we are going to continue to allow this. And I’m not talking about the ones who seek asylum, because that is a separate issue, but the ones who came here illegally and had a child here. What would you propose? I can’t come up with a solution in my own head. I agree that separating them from their children is absolutely NOT the answer, but what is? What would you do?
You can be both. Many of us are! It’s a complicated issue, but there is nothing complicated about believing it’s cruel to separate parents and small children, I think that is why it’s hard to understand someone taking the opposing viewpoint. We can be for border control AND humane treatment–seems logical!
The reason I’ve been reading your blog daily since 2010 is because of how you mix real life with the design world. I love when you share your posts from other topics because so often it’s what I’ve been thinking and feeling but cannot put into words. It feels like I have a best friend that I’ve never actually met ;) Thank you for all that you do and for being a constant in my life because no matter how I’m feeling or thinking, I come to this space to feel connected to others not only in my industry but that are strong women!
I applaud you,Erin! Thank you for using your platform to address difficult and sensitive yet vastly important topics! It speaks volumes of your character that you’re willing to sacrafice readership to address the things that truly matter in life. You’re one of the good ones, remember that always!
We are polar opposites in almost all our views. However, I respect your right to say whatever you want on your own blog. It is your blog!! This post was well written. I applaud you!
Thank you, Erin, for your powerful, inspiring words. I love your blog all the more because you let us see the real, strong, and beautiful person behind it.
Absolutely! Not sure how anyone with a heart or a conscience could keep quiet right now anyway. Keep on sharing! Women don’t have to “smile” or keep quiet or “only post pretty things .”
It hurts my heart a little that you even had to write this post. Women who tear down other women are a special kind of awful, but although they may be the most vocal, they are certainly not the majority. I hope you see by all of these positive comments that you are admired and supported. I enjoy your blog because the beautifully curated images are tempered with doses of reality.
You are an influencer and have the platform (and right), to not only share your design talent, but to also speak what is on your mind. This the real world, people!
Thank you Erin. I respect you more each day with your honesty.
Well said! I’m with you 100%.
Erin, I know your parents and Andrew are so proud of you for what you stand for. And Henry will be proud to have you as his mother when he becomes a young man. Keep making your voice heard!
Keep up ALL the amazing work you’re doing! Your design work is beautiful, but your passion for a safe, kind world for our children is even more admirable. I too follow you because you aren’t ignoring what’s happening in our country, as living in a pretty bubble isn’t going to help anyone.
Hooray! 1st amendment! Use it every day. We’re with you!
Erin, I appreciate your bravery and your humanity. And while I don’t know you, it seems to me that any other way of being for you would be insincere.
Your post was so well-phrased, and I couldn’t agree more. Thank you for your honest and productive POV on big issues affecting our society and our people today!
I loved your last post. I think a lot of us in this style world feel like we need to make sure to never ruffle any feathers, but when it comes to children forcibly separated from their parents, we need to break the fourth wall and speak our beliefs. It strikes me as odder to go on as though the world had not been shaken. I’m all for blogs being mainly apolitical escapes, but there are times when one must take a stand. This week saw that happen and I thank you for expressing your views. XO
I actually follow you BECAUSE you are a person, a mom, a woman, beyond simply just being a brand or label. Thank you for using your platform to speak up!
AMEN. Keep talking and sharing. We have a voice and a heart and means and we have to use them all.
Hi,
People need to learn to let other people voice their opinions without getting all upset that it is not theirs. Women need to learn this and to learn that it is ok if everyone does not like you. I would not dislike someone just because they have a difference of opinion but many do.
I love your style and your book. I look forward to your posts.
So well said. I’ve never understood why women can sometimes be so cruel to other women. And in this case, it is beyond reason. Your post was heartfelt, inspiring, and brave. You have every right to use your well-earned follower platform to inspire action around a cause or situation you feel strongly about. I, for one, am grateful that you do.
You are spot on. It is hard today to live a full happy life. The challenges today are non stop and peace is the goal. I appreciate your honesty and enjoy your work. Keep on swimming.
Amen Sister!
I tell my kids all the time that part of my job as a mom is to help them to become the kind of people who can make the world a better place. Your blog and posts inspire me in a variety of different ways, and for that spectrum of insight and inspiration, I thank you.
I agree!! Continue to use your voice to express whatever you feel and take a stand. That is what I love about you!
The reasonable (sane) people who follow you will continue to do so. If you lose fringe readers, I don’t think you are losing much. Anyone who supports that insane border policy doesn’t deserve to partake of your insight and sharing of beautiful things.
Love this. Well written and thought out. Bravo for speaking out where many will remain silent.
Amen and amen. There is nothing more fearsome to the weak than a strong, smart, and motivated woman because she gets things done. You are that woman, and we love you for it.
Hear, Hear!!! I love that you speak out about the issues about which you feel passionate. To be honest, I love your blog so much more because of it. Thank you for being you and for being real!!!!
Thank you!! Couldn’t agree more.
Well written, as always. Keep doing you! Your loyal followers follow you for just that reason.
Erin,
Thanks so much for this post. I definitely agree with you that there’s an added layer of sexism, but I take issue with anyone who tells an athlete, actor, or anyone with a platform that they should just stick to playing sports, making movies, or doing whatever their profession is. Every person is entitled to their opinion, and people with platforms have the opportunity to bring attention to an issue and potentially impact that discussion. Good for you–keep it up!!
Also, I’m of the opinion that leaving politics, religion, or any other potentially charged topic at the proverbial “door” has left us completely incapable as a society to have a civil, cooperative, and constructive dialogue about difficult issues. Even worse, those who do seem to compromise or behave civilly are perceived as or painted as wimps. Nothing can be further from the truth. We’re all in this ship together and we HAVE to work together to find meaningful, collaborative solutions to big problems.
Thanks for your continued commitment to bring light to important matters, and for your bravery. People cannot be summed up by one political vote or issue position–hopefully, people will start realizing that sooner rather than later.
Thank you Erin! This article was inspiring and courageous. I always look forward to your blogs/posts. Usually they make me die laughing and in the cases of political topics you have written about I wanted to thank you for using your platform to speak up. Both topics are urgent issues… how could we possibly stay quiet about them ?
Hear hear!! All of it!! Love this post!
Erin, I applaud you for sharing your views alongside your work with your real name and image. Too many people hide behind their computers and spew hatred without taking the opportunity to learn from one another, to empathize with an alternative point of view.
So many seek to keep dividing instead of discussing together the problems of the day and either A. Finding a solution or B. Understanding the other’s point of view. You don’t have to agree to understand. It’s a disgusting aspect of this wonderful digital age.
Keep doing what you’re doing, we’ve got your back!!
I haven’t ever commented before but I just wanted to say thank you for this post and for continuing to speak out. Keep it up!
I also have a toddler son and would LOVE a fashion post on what Henry is wearing this summer!
Loved your post! Bravo and well spoken!
For your next fashion post could you please highlight summer dresses that are versatile and comfortable that you can wear to the workplace and chase a toddler? I also love your save vs splurge posts for fashion and home goods! Thanks.
I just skimmed the comments on yesterday’s post.
I think that your passion attracts some very loud, aggressive, persistent, and uninformed right wingers to comment and engage in a fruitless back-and-forth in the comments. While these people really seemed to have a LOUD voice in the comments, I agree with others here and believe that for every person who argues with you there are 50 who agree wholeheartedly with you. I just think that the right wing in this country is unfortunately drowning the majority out. Hopefully come November we can hit the polls and drown out the screaming with our VOTES.
Also, I think your post here is eloquent and applaud you for pointing out the inherent sexism in the suggestion that you shouldn’t be allowed to voice your opinion on non-design related topics.
Well said!
Absolutely. I have to say how much I love that the replies to this post are such a mix of commentary on the issue at hand as well as requests for fashion content/advice–sometimes in the same sentence! Thanks for making space for both, and by doing that attracting an audience of multifaceted HUMANS. The more we can show up in the world as our whole selves, the better.
Yas Erin! When I started my business my motto was to do good work for good people because I cannot adjust my integrity to satsisfy greed. Now it is far too important to remain silent, this Administration has proven to be so anti-democracy and flat out un-American that it shouldn’t be about party or politics, but about about preserving our democracy and quite literally good vs evil. There is no was possible to be for Trump and support his administration and still be a sane, moral individual.
This was a far more elegant response to the commentary than the explicatives I hurled at my phone when I saw your Insta story last night. ;) I, for one, am more in love with your brand now BECAUSE of these types of posts.
As for fashion: I would love a post on how to dress in a v. casual office, while not looking like a 23-year-old hipster.
And another idea – I’m remodeling a new house, and am terrified at how to approach adding color. Any advice you could give on how to a) find / define your design style, and b) approach color in a way that won’t terrify those of us who can’t get past neutrals, would be amazing.
Thanks for this. I really appreciate the brands and “influencers” who stand for more than just selling stuff. I have made a note of the people I follow who haven’t mentioned anything about migrant children this week. Their silence has really turned me off and made me question their values; it says to me that they value money more than virtually anything else.
I actually lose respect for brands that don’t speak out about these issues. Especially when it’s bloggers that are one voice. Thank you for not being a robot that’s only concerned about dollars. You provide FREE content day in and day out. It’s your prerogative to share what you like and if people don’t care for it, quit following or ignore it. I will never understand the hate that people feel safe to spew on the internet. Please keep up what you’re doing.
Go Erin, go!
Henry is lucky to have an empowered woman like you as a mom. We are all lucky you share your empowerment and lift us up with you.
Just curious as to why you were not concerned about these issues for the past 8 years.Nothing has changed.
Because that’s not true.https://www.snopes.com/fact-check/was-law-separate-families-passed-1997/
Couldn’t agree more- keep it up!
YES YES YES! I’m so glad and proud (not that I have any personal right to be) that this is your response. You handled yourself so well in the comments yesterday and this perspective is 100% right on. Thank you for not staying quiet and thank you for standing up for yourself and so many others by extension.
YES! YES! YES!
Amazing post Erin! Thank you for all that you do!
Thank you for this post. It was brave and I’m glad you’re raising it. What horrifies me is that you are the 3rd public-facing woman in my social community to have voiced this same issue in the last week. Why are we asking each other to stifle our voices? Please keep being your authentic self. Apparently we need more examples of women leaders willing to voice diverse opinions.
I really appreciate this post. Speaking out for what you believe in is hard! I think this goes across so many industries right now too where athletes, actors, etc. are told to “stay in their lane” and not weigh in on issues that matter that aren’t related to their job because they are “political”. We are all humans and have a right to an opinion and just because a job gives you a platform, that doesn’t take away someone’s right to share their opinion. And I appreciate it because, like you said, it’s not an easy thing to do!
I admire your courage and honesty. Like your designs, you are complex and multi-faceted. Your opinions give strength to all your fun and frivolous posts.
Love this , love your blog!
You may lose some followers but you have just gained a supporter for life with this post.
Thanks for this, Erin. I know the temptation to say “oh, I just don’t worry about politics” or “let’s just look at pretty pictures!” is so strong…but in this climate we all have to speak up against injustices, even when we’re women of privilege who don’t find ourselves immediately affected by these atrocious policies. I’m a mom, too, and I know one day my boys will ask me what I did with my power and my voice to fight these evils. I have loved your blog for years because of your courageous, honest voice when you discuss challenges, and your posts today and yesterday are no exception. Keep up the good work.
Well said, Erin! Personally, I enjoy seeing the beautiful things you post but also hearing your opinions as a mama and a woman! Keep up the amazing work! Would love to see some 4th of July outfit inspiration ☺️
Brava!!!! I love that you choose to share other facets of your humanity beyond just your interest in fashion and interior design. Keep doing what you’re doing.
Thank you so much for speaking out. Since the election, I have made a concerted effort to support brands and businesses who decide to put HUMANS first. Nothing makes me more infuriated than the people who think that people in some professions don’t have a right to be vocal about their political opinions. I’d say those who have a platform have a moral obligation to use it for good, so thank you for doing so. While design and fashion sometimes are a nice escape from the harsh realities of the world most days, I can’t pretend to care about throw pillows when I see what has been happening to these innocent children. Let’s keep fighting the fight!
Bravo — Well Said Erin. We cannot compartmentalize our humanity from what we do.
Love you
All that you do
Dont change
Thanks for above post
Look forward to ll you write and create
Happy Thursday
In my opinion, you not only have the right but the responsibility to use your platform to thoughtfully espouse ideals that help make the world a better place not just for Henry but for all the children who don’t have a voice that can be heard.
In other words, you go Mama! (or woman or human or politically correct term of your choice)
Well done, Erin. I read your blog for ALL of your beautiful content. Thanks so much for continually being a great role model.
Brava!
I love your blog because you take a stand. You do such quality work because you embrace your humanity and have empathy for others. That is a strength not a weakness. We need more people standing up with courage like you, saying our humanity is connected to our work and we are connected to each other. Thank you for having courage and speaking out against what is truly morally hideous.
Also, to your sponsors that may be reading, I want them to know that yours is the ONLY blog on which I have ever relied for purchase recommendations. The first few things I bought that you linked to were so excellent that if you highlight or recommend something I’ve been wanting or needing, I don’t hesitate to buy it and you’ve never led me astray. I follow you for your excellent eye, great writing, and human element. Keep it up.
Great post. Please know that for every one ignorant/hateful/rude reader you encounter, there are probably 50 who love what you do AND love that you’re willing to speak out against important issues. Right now we need as many folks as we can, especially those who have a platform, to speak up for what they believe in. Thank you for continuing to do that, especially so eloquently. Keep doing you!!!
You have my full support Erin!!! I admire and respect you more for speaking out against the terrible things happening in our country. To stay silent is to be complicit.
I am glad that you write about whatever you want to write about. I have been following you for years because you talk about your real struggles, with an eating disorder, infertility, and being a working mom. I think you have a great eye, and I love your taste. But a lot of bloggers post pretty pictures. I think most people want to read bloggers who have an authentic voice. To me it seems completely natural that you would start to post about the political issues we are all struggling with right now. I feel the opposite of the commenters who say they visit blogs to get away from these issues. In fact, when all of this terrible stuff is going on in the world, I expect anyone who has a public voice to speak out about it. Of course, most of the time we just want to see the pretty pictures, but there are times when that is not enough.
So glad you are writing about this! I normally don’t post comments on IG accounts I follow unless they are friends but yesterday I could not help but tell that woman off on your post. It is nuts to me that people can’t just move on with their day. And whats even more repulsive is that yes, these people always seem to be women but specifically women who have children. It must be nice to be able to live a life of privilege and never have to deal with the real world and only see beautiful things.
Erin, keep doing what you are doing – your authenticity is what made your brand and it is what will keep you in business.
We both had big smiles reading your comments yesterday. :)
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PREACH!!! I often recall the Voltairean principle: “I wholly disapprove of what you say—and will defend to the death your right to say it.” I am glad that you and all women are using the platforms they have to talk about what they are passionate about. If something’s not for me, I’ll disregard it, but that’s my responsibility, not the authors’.
And, any advice on how to style summer shorts without looking like I’m a camp counselor? (I’m curvier on the bottom and the struggle is real!)
So well said! I appreciate and look forward to your posts that share your perspective and passion on these difficult issues. It is heartening to see not just your willingness, but your commitment to sharing thoughts on human rights issues and other topics that are confronting (assaulting!) us day by day. As a mother, a woman, a human, it is imperative to support and respect each other. Thank you for being brave and standing up for a better, more empathetic and safer world for our children.
So well written! And I agree- you are more than pretty pictures and our world is more than pretty things. Let’s all get real and be honest with ourselves. While I may not agree with you, your passion and desire for change is admirable.
Well said- thank you.
Amen, Erin! Keep fighting the good fight!
Thanks for being a compassionate human! We need more of those.
Thank you for mentioning the sexism implicit in some of the comments you receive. I had the same thoughts while reading yesterday’s comments. I admire you for persisting. Keep it up—your blog is a beacon.
For starters I can’t even believe people do say that sort of thing to you, until I see it in black & white. It astounds me that people feel that they need to tell you what to do with your own platform!! And for the record, yes while I love the interiors posts and the basis of Elements of Style, I also love that you share the human side of life. However glossy some may make life look online, enough of us know that adulting is tough! And seems to get tougher by the year at present. To share some of what is behind the fancy wallpapers and ‘Fashion Friday’ is exactly what keeps me coming back for more. Keep doing exactly what you do Erin xx
Yes! 100% agree. Thank you.
For your next fashion post, how about a roundup of hot weather dresses that are comfortable and appropriate for a professional work setting. I wear dresses instead of suits to work on hot summer days but struggle to find dresses that dressy and professional enough for my office but also comfortable. Washable is a bonus (so much sweat). Loved your Banana Republic post!
Yes to this fashion post request, and major yes to your eloquently written reply to those who think you can’t express your views on human rights since you also post pretty pictures. Your well-thought out and well-written posts are a reason you’re one of the few blogs I still read. Thanks Erin!
I have a young son and am constantly running around with him on the weekends and only want to wear easy summer dresses but don’t want them to look like tents or billows of fabrics. So maybe part 1 is work dresses and part 2 are weekend dresses that are flattering. :) Thanks Erin!
Thank you for all that you do. Your brand is *not* pretty pictures and spaces. It is an educated, articulate, compassionate, and artistic voice. It is one in which I will continue to seek to invest my thoughts, my feelings, my dollars, and my personal space.
Amen, sister. “A woman’s place…seen but not heard…don’t worry your pretty little head…” OVER. This is your blog and one of the joys of running one’s own business is the ablity to do or say what one wants and let chips fall where they may. No one forces us to read or watch what we find distasteful . It’s called choice. Thank you again for your well-stated stand.
PREACH
Bravo Erin! To thine own self be true. What makes your blog special is that you have your own unique voice that shines through.
Beautifully stated. We can state our opinions and people can disagree with them. Civility in doing so is key. Thank you for continuing to share your life, opinions, talent, and passion!
Excellent, excellent post. I 100% agree with you on the underlying sexism that wants you to keep your mouth shut and so admire your stand against those sentiments. Keep it up!!